Hi, my name is D. I'm a BBHM, former football player, current football coach. I'm a father, , and lover of life. Very involved in the community, and @ my 's high school.Very intelligent,I read as much as time allows (non-fiction), and try to learn something new every day. Computer builder, union official, leader. Very positive, and I refuse to stay mad at anyone for long. I NEVER FORGET! But when you're mad, nobody's mad but you. Don't mistake it for weakness, you won't get a second chance...TRUST ME ON THAT ONE! Oh yeah, BBHM stands for "Big Black Handsome Male" I am VERY honest and I HATE BS. Read on...What follows is most important! READ THE WHOLE THING!

My Ideal Person It's like this. First thing,BE HONEST and NO BULLSHIT! EVER!

NO DRUG ADDICTS!(If cigarettes, heroine, crack, cocaine, or meth is your thing, stop reading NOW and move on!)

If cocktails and good bud ain't enough for you...PRESS ON! PLEASE PRESS ON!

I like a woman that can cuss, but know when and where(I will cuss...trust me).
I like a woman that can be quiet and not talk constantly.
I like a woman who likes REAL MEN, not one who says she does and then wants to run the show. UH UH!

I LIKE HONEST WOMEN! Look, I'm being very honest with you, laying out what I like right here. This is what I am. Don't tell me later you "thought" this or that, it's all right here. If you're seeing someone else or decide later to...JUST TELL ME! What can I do but move on? Have some respect for me and yourself.

I like a woman who likes to drink (but she's not a drunkard), smoke(but NOT CIGARETTES...uggghhhhh), and likes ALL kinds of music(with the exception of this sorry R&B shit that's out right now). I'm quite varied in my musical tastes, rock being love #1. Hip-hop,acid-jazz, reggae, blues, ambient, etc. are all part of what makes me musically. Don't say I didn't tell you so.

She loves segrown-up sex, not that, "I don't do this, I don't do that shit!" I'm 44 not 14!) And yes, this includes anal. Sex toys and all of their variations, taking sexy pics, phone sex, light bondage, etc., ALL GOOD! Got a girl that might want to hang out with us? Cool.

NO S/M, NO shitting on me or beasteality, and NO GAY MAN shit! Honest enough?

She loves sports, traveling, dining out, music, movies, comedy, computers, fishing and the outdoors.

She loves and wants to have a good time!

She should be very open-minded, love to laugh, be laughed at (and with), and be cute and sexy as hell.

SHE KEEPS HER NAILS AND TOES DONE! ALL THE TIME! And that doesn't mean slapping some clear polish on 'em. NO HANGING or DRAGGING TOENAILS! That's just disgusting. Chipped nail polish? Remove it and re-apply. ONLY CRACKHEADS sport that look.
Hell, if I can stay manicured and decent(and I'm a man), why can't you?

She HAS to be thick and shapely(BBW). Big and ample in the two big and ample locations. NO, "IBTC"! Or, "IBAC"! I prefer that she be black. I haven't met one white woman yet that can be what I stated above. I need an ONION ASS! Prove me wrong if you can!

She has to be able to share, as I am very willing to share. What I'm not looking for is to be your "Sugar Daddy" or someone to finance your endeavors. If you can't spend some $$$, neither can I. Period!

If you've got baby-daddy drama, please press on. I live my life w/o any drama or bullshit! If you like all of that or got it going on, please press on.

I am 100% man! A "throwback", if you will. Take it at what it's worth! Don't say I didn't tell you.

I'm a married man. Which means I need someone special, and understanding. But at the same time, she's not a whore.

I'm looking for someone I can relax with, travel with, etc., and be intimate with. No pressure or hassles, but someone who's always there and knows I'm there for them.

Tired of all these males who call themselves men? NOTICE I DIDN'T SAY MEN?

Your single and,"WANT A MAN OF YOUR OWN?" How's that been working for ya?

YOU'VE NEVER MET A MAN THAT'S THE COMBINATION OF WHAT I AM!

If you want to escape the ho-hum of our everyday trials and tribulations, and can leave that behind and escape, then I'm your guy. When we're together, nothing else matters but us.

AND MOST OF ALL, NO CRAZY M.F.'S! IF YOU'RE A NUT (oh you know you're nuts)LEAVE ME THE F_ _ K ALONE! FIND ANOTHER NUT TO BE WITH. THERE ARE TONS OF THEM OUT THERE.

NO MORE BULLSHIT! If that's what you're about, leave me be.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Spanking, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Participating in Erotic Photography, Handcuffs/Shackles

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level, A little of each

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